Break My Heart

                Having your heart broken has always been looked at like a bad thing, a horrible thing, something you should run from. Coming from a girl who has had her heart broken over and over again I want to put heart break in a more positive light. Imagine that you are in a marriage, a friendship, dating someone, have a child, really any kind of relationship and that the person you are in the relationship with does something that can hurt you. If your heart did not break then it is safe to say that you did not even love that person. What kind of relationship would that be if you did not give your everything and someone could walk away or do something hurtful and you would just feel normal. It would be a disaster. It would be a sham of a relationship, something fake and something you were probably better off never being involved in. Now because I doubt anyone is really in this category no matter how much you fake it, take a look at the times that your heart has been truly broken. Is your heart broken because you are worried for you? Is the pain you feel all for yourself? Does it get hard for you to breathe because you think that somehow now your life is over? No, no matter how much it does hurt you and how much your life will be changed you are not as sad for you as you are for the person that broke your heart. If your heart is not involved then it cannot be broken however if your heart is involved then it’s not involved to better yourself. What I have learned is that having a broken heart means that you have experienced love that will never fail. It means that the person you love so much is living below the standard of what you know they can live. It means that you care about them so much and want so much more for them and when you watch them hurt themselves it breaks your heart. When your heart breaks it breaks for someone else not for you. Think about it this way, you loved them so much and believed in them so much and that is never wrong. We all want someone who believes in us and believes that we can be everything we should be and I am certain that at one point we have all fallen short of that and hurt someone, maybe even broken their heart, but if we could break their heart and if they could keep believing that we are so much more than what we have allowed ourselves to live in then it would give us the strength and the courage to become everything we should be. If we did not break hearts or if people did not break our hearts then that would mean there was no belief that we could have been better or there would be no hope that the person who hurt us could be what they were made to be and that would be a sad life to live. I may be reiterating here however the point I am trying to make is that when someone breaks your heart and does something that hurts you because you know it’s hurting them then there is so much hope. They have a future! They have a chance to be everything that God wants them to be because at one time that person was someone you believed in so much and that person had the potential to be your hero or your greatest love. You still have that hope for them and that’s what they need, that’s what we need. God believes every single day that when we wake up we are going to make the right decisions and live the way he intended us to live. I have said it in my blog before, if he believes that I want to believe what he believes about people. I would rather have someone break my heart for the rest of my life and know that because they could break my heart that I believed in them and that they had a chance every day to wake up and do what is right. I would say break my heart over and over and let me take it. God is on my side and I will never be defeated. People are not trying to hurt me and when they do it is because I love them so much and I want so much more for them. Please break my heart so that you have a chance to come back or to start living the right way. If you can break my heart then that means I will fight for you. It means that you are worth something to me and everyone, absolutely everyone has worth and value and should be fought for. Next time someone breaks your heart don’t run and hide from that. Be willing to fight for them and pray for them so that they have the chance to make it.